I’m Totally Holding Back


Have you ever worked out with weighted arm- or leg-bands?

That’s how I feel sometimes, but with life in general, not with working out in particular. And it’s intentional.

There are things I want to do – that I will do – but I’m holding back. Biding my time. Waiting for the right moment.

Conventional non-conventional thinking (what you’ll read on blogs and in inspirational books) says that I should drop everything and plow forward recklessly. Don’t think, feel. Don’t wait, jump.

Hell, I’ve given this same advice. In a lot of cases, and for a lot of people, it’s the best tip you can give. If you’re afraid to fail or try new things or scared of change or the like, not giving your thought process a chance to catch up with your scary ambitions is smart, and could very well change your life dramatically (and hopefully for the better).

But I’m not afraid to fail. I like trying new things. I thrive on change.

For me what’s difficult is pacing myself. Regulating. Holding back.

And that’s what I’m doing right now. People ask me what I’m up to and I’ll list off a string of current projects and goals, but I’ve got more. A whole lot more, actually, some that would be just for kicks and some that could be game-changers. I want to pursue them all, and with gusto.

And I intend to, just not right at this moment.

Life is short and you have to be ambitious if you want to fit everything into those hundred-or-so years, but if you keep your eyes tunnel-focused on that next goal, you won’t be able to enjoy the rewards of the last goal you reached, and the one before that.

Life is just one victory horizon after another and it’s important to slow down sometimes to enjoy the view.


Entrepreneurship as a Lifestyle


The conversation usually goes something like this:

“…so yeah, I spend a good deal of time working on these different projects, and when I’m not doing that, I’m out meeting people, and some of those people are potential business connections.”

“So what do you do with your free time?”

“I’ll usually get a bit more done on those projects. Maybe do a little writing.”

“In your free time? That’s the same as what do you while working.”

“Speaking of which, I’ve got this thing I have to do. Project-related. Ciao.”

And so on, and so forth.

I have people tell me all the time that it’s not healthy to spend so much time working and thinking about work and talking about work and can’t I just relax on the work thing for a bit? Won’t I come join them in sitting around, watching TV?

The thing is that I really, truly, honestly enjoy what I do for a living, and that’s why I spend even stolen moments with these projects. I’m passionate about them, and I can’t imagine trying to make them successful if I wasn’t.

And that’s the real trick, isn’t it? A lot of people want to be in business for themselves, but the first thing that comes to mind is ‘how can I make money?’ The better approach, I think, is to first wonder ‘what do I love enough to happily spend my mornings, nights and weekends doing?’ and then figure out a way to monetize that.

For me, it’s the joy of creating something out of nothing. I don’t care what the field or genre of business happens to be: if I can start making money from nothing but a good idea and a clever monetization strategy that allows all sides of a transaction to walk away happy, I’m already halfway to fulfilled. It’s the thrill of creation and the risk inherent each time I move in on a new niche.

What about you?

What do you love doing so much that you could happily work all day every day? What would allow you to choose entrepreneurship as a lifestyle?

Blog, Project

Okay, 26 is a Large Number


Yesterday, I sent off the first draft of my new book to a few people who had offered to take a look, give me some notes and catch any edits that need to be made. I got it out the door just a few days after my 26th birthday.

It’s a good feeling to get to that point (on both counts), but man is it exhausting.

I’ve written 4 ebooks before this one, but each of those were essentially instructional-with-stories, whereas this one is all stories with a few things I’ve learned along the way.

It’s a lot easier, I’m finding, to tell people about things you know than it is to relate stories you seldom tell and explain what they mean to you.

One of the fun benefits of running a blog like this (and having had it for 2 years TODAY) is being able to look back and see where I was this time last year, and figure out what’s changed, what hasn’t, what I wanted to accomplish and what I didn’t get around to.

I have my own analysis of myself and my life for a full two years of my life, and that’s pretty frickin’ wild.

I love living in the future.

This time two years ago, when I was 24, I wrote up my very first blog post, and if you take a look at what I was writing about (and how I wrote it), it’s decidedly different from how I communicate today, and I like to think I took a few steps down a better path since then.

If you look back at what I was writing about one year ago, when I had just turned 25, you’ll see I was discussing the then-new ebook, Networking Awesomely, which ended up being my proof-of-concept that I could make a living through online publishing if I wanted to, and that there was an audience for the kind of stuff I was interested in talking about.

Since then, I’ve met so many amazing people and done so many amazing things that it makes my mind convulse just thinking about it all, not to mention trying to figure out how it all happened in just 365 days.

It’s as if an entire lifetime has passed since I turned 25, and now I’m a completely different person, living a completely different life.

Which, of course, isn’t at all accurate.

Things have changed in my life, I’ve changed, my priorities have deviated slightly, and my goals and philosophies are still evolving and continuing along as planned. But I’m still living the life I want to be living, and can happily say that – if I were to die at this very moment – that I would die happy, and doing exactly what I want to be doing.

That’s a great feeling, and I feel very fortunate to be in a position to say it, and to have been able to say it for two whole years (and counting).

So there’s no adventure story or philosophical-musing today, just a great big thank you to everyone who has helped me get where I am by teaching me and encouraging me along the way.


Even though I feel suddenly old at 26 in a way I never felt at 25, I’m absolutely certain that just like these past two years, this will be the best year of my life to date.