Other People’s Stupid Opinions

 

We can’t all agree all the time.

In fact, most of us don’t agree most of the time.

We argue constantly, each certain of the superiority of our opinions; the totemic high-ground of our viewpoints.

Remember, though, that however ridiculous you think other opinions are, the people who hold them feel the same about yours. To them, you look just as silly, have just as questionable a level of education, are just as bewilderingly ignorant as you think they are.

This doesn’t mean they’re right, just as it doesn’t mean you’re right.

All it means is that if you want to convince anyone of anything, disrespect for them is the least effective way to get there. Not only will you not have brought them around to your way of thinking, you may also have made an enemy out of someone who could be a valuable friend (and debate partner).

Other people’s stupid opinions have just as much merit as your own, in that they are opinions backed by individual experience and a closed body of knowledge. Perhaps they – or you – simply haven’t lived long enough yet to see their error of their – or your – ways.

There’s no need to get heated; if your opinions have real merit, they will stand on their own two feet, and won’t need you to defend them tooth and claw.

Keep your mind malleable, your arguments rational, and your words civil. You might show someone else another perspective, or you might see one yourself.

To do otherwise doesn’t just show disrespect for the ideas of others, but for your own, as well.

13 comments

  1. Hey Colin,-It’s true. Let everyone have their opinion and respect yourself enough to like and live your own opinions (if there’s no harm to anyone else).-There’s also a psychology study saying that if someone truly believes something deeply, no amount of rational evidence will change their belief anyways.Cheers.

  2. I like your article’s directness. Btw, kinky picture. Do you happen to know her in the picture?

  3. I think that you can objectively know a right and wrong… or at the very least, you can point out hypocrisy in a person’s philosophy. While their philosophy and values is closer to what is “opinion” and possibly of equal merit, when someone has a strong philosophical deviation (ie. “individual rights” while prohibiting a woman’s right to control her body) then that person should be told they are wrong, over and over again.

  4. Great advice. It’s pointless to get heated over something if it amounts to nothing that important. Of course this could be easier said than done but it’s worth trying to do!

    And as a community manager intern from Livefyre, welcome! Let me know if you have any questions

  5. I can’t tell you the number of times I have been here. People get so worked up over their opinions and viewpoints that they lose track of whats really important in the conversation. I appreciate the post and the truth to it. We all need to take a step back and listen, stop arguing already. If we are right…. we will still be right after all the bickering. :)

  6. Eckhart Tolle talks about defending our opinions. And when we defend our opinions it’s just our ego. Anytime you have to defend anything, it’s a good sign that you are not fully confident in your stand or it’s not truth. When you know something as truth, you trust in that without the need to defend it. Great post. Just started following. Was introduced by The Minimalist. Psyched to be following as this is a lifestyle I am working hard towards.

  7. I try as hard as possible to respect people, and failing that, tolerance. Their opinions, however, is another matter. Someone coming out with racist bullshit (for example) will not have those ideas respected nor tolerated.

  8. We all may have different perspectives or opinions but it is best to always have a control over the ego. A conversation that were initially intended to help or motivate may turn sour due to self-glorification without showing any form of weakness and maybe unintentionally attacked their weakness or fault or way of thinking.

  9. Hi Colin, it’s uncanny how true this is. There are always opposing views and only time will prove you right or wrong.

  10. Thanks for this great article and I totally agree with you. You should always to most of the time follow your opinion.

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