The Burden of Ownership

19 Apr 2009
Even sea creatures need statuettes.

Even sea creatures need statuettes.

Take a look at your hobbies. Are they corporate tools (as in a useful device or implement, not a person who is a douchebag)?

They almost certainly are. I, for one, have had MANY hobbies that, in retrospect, seem to have involved little but buying, buying and more buying.

Take, for example, my years of competitive Magic: The Gathering card playing. I loved the social aspect of the game, being able to attend conventions and tournaments, keep up with the storyline and the lore of the game, and I definitely loved the strategy involved (in both playing the game and building up my collection by trading the cards).

I moved on from Magic to what I, at the time, considered to be a much more evolved hobby: namely, Warhammer and Warhammer 40k (the difference? One takes place 40,000 years after the other. Duh). Warhammer is a tabletop fantasy war game (think Lord of the Rings, but more complex) in which you pit your army (a horde of self-assembled-and-painted plastic and pewter miniatures) against your opponent’s (an army of similar material composition, though likely with a different storyline, weaknesses and strengths). The real wallet-buster was that all the pieces were shipped from the UK to the US, which resulted in peak pricing, despite the massive size of the armies.

In the end, though, the whole point behind both of these hobbies is to acquire more. Go buy some booster packs to get more cards. Not enough? Buy a box of them! Bored of this set? Don’t worry, there’s a new expansion coming out tomorrow! We should buy a box! And don’t forget to snag a blister pack of Ork Stormboyz while you’re at the comic shop!

Keep in mind, I’m not criticizing either of these hobbies. In fact, I probably owe a lot of my social skills, my penchant for strategizing and a good deal of my acumen to having partaken in them. I do know, however, that at some point they became too much for me.

I started to have these really bad nightmares, the kind in which you are running through an unfamiliar environment (for me it was usually a derelict office building…read into that what you will) and being chased by an unidentified pursuer. You don’t know who they are, but you know you need to get away, and in my version of the dream I was trying to run while carrying ALL of my Warhammer miniatures and Magic cards along with me.

Now, I was really into these games, so I had thousands upon thousands of cards and boxes and boxes of miniatures piled high in my closet, so it was quite a task to drag all this stuff along with me while running from a dream demon. I was very careful not to hurt anything, too. These things were important to me! They demonstrated my dedication to the craft, in money and in spent time, so I wasn’t going to leave them for this…this ‘whatever’ that was chasing me.

After having these dreams several times a week for a few months, I began to sell and give away my Magic cards. The result? Fewer bad dreams. Then I reduced my Warhammer collection down to one army. Again, fewer bad dreams. By the time I left for college and had completely stricken the hobbies from my lifestyle and the dreams were gone.

The point to this story, and (presumably) the point of my dreams, is that your possessions can wear on you in ways you barely recognize consciously, but definitely feel the results of. Think of someone you know (or yourself, if this is you) who bought that big screen TV, only to find many aspects of their lives suffering because they are now spending all the time they had for other activities pounding back pizza and watching ‘American Idol.’ Think of the time, money and attention spent on accumulating and protecting tacky Precious Moments statuettes and Beanie Babies (yeah, remember those?).

In the United States especially, accumulating possessions is representative of wealth. A bigger house means more space to put things that you buy and forget, or worse, buy and obsess over.

I find that going through everything I own once per month and getting rid of the things I don’t use is incredibly soothing. I literally feel a physical tension release in my shoulders and back; a tightness I didn’t even realize was there until I got rid of some junk that was taking up space in my townhouse and in the back of my mind. I feel lighter.

Give it a shot and let me know how it goes by leaving a comment below.



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4 Responses to “The Burden of Ownership”

Man, I love getting rid of stuff! When I moved to Thailand I got rid of all my furniture except for a chair, and everything else I kept I was able to fit into a closet. It’s such a liberating feeling. I believe 98% of the things we own we could do just fine without, but are so convinced that we are emotionally attached we don’t realize we wouldn’t even notice if it were gone.

It was also a plus when I moved back to the States to only have to move a carload of crap into an apartment rather than a whole moving van.

Ember / Apr 28 09 at 9:28 am

Oh I’m totally looking forward to an excuse to get rid of stuff. I always feel lighter after I do, and without the traveling excuse I think I’d feel like a hobo, not owning plates or chairs.

I’ve always liked the idea of owning very little, but the best of what you do own. I definitely prefer quality over quantity, and I’ll finally get to express that preference fully!

Have you found that moving back to a non-traveling lifestyle has brought back some of the sprawl? That’s part of what I’m afraid of, and part of why I’m considering continuing this project indefinitely!

colin / Apr 28 09 at 9:16 pm

I agree with you completely. I have spent the past four years purging my possessions, and to be honest, I owned a small fraction of what most people have. I sold a bunch on eBay, donated nearly $8K worth to charity, and gave away the rest.

A couple months ago, I finally got down to a carry-on bag and a messenger briefcase. Everything else is gone. It has been an amazingly liberating process.

Incidentally, I received a lot of flack from the people in my life for giving away so much stuff. It’s a rare delight to find people who understand the philosophy behind it.

Crystal Silver / Jul 30 09 at 11:31 am

when i left to travel i sold some of my stuff, and gave away the remaining stuff. i just filled up one backpack with clothes and left. hehe

i realize that i bought a lot of stuff that i dont actually need…

-flip

flip / Dec 29 09 at 10:15 am

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