Exile Lifestyle

Some beliefs are technically untrue, but still useful. I tend to believe I can do anything if I really want to, and if I’m willing to fully invest myself in it. This is almost certainly not true, as we’ve all…

Predictability is great because it allows us to make plans and investments, and to feel some degree of security. If we know where we’ll be living for the next handful of years, we can invest in nice furniture and buy…

The more years I’ve accrued, the more obvious it’s become that I can’t take anything for granted. My physical capacities, my mentality clarity, the way I look, the things I crave, the activities and inputs that fuel me—all are prone…

I’ve had some good discussions with friends, recently, about what we make and how we spend our time. There was a period in which you could make one thing, and just one thing, and that thing would stand a decent…

Note: Paid supporters of my newsletter receive additional, monthly essays as a small thank-you for their support, and I’ve decided to open up this month’s essay to everyone, as it’s relevant to the release of my new book. Whether we’re asking someone…

I’ve been writing and publishing books professionally since 2010. A lot has changed in the publishing world since I started sharing my work and authoring at a level that allowed me to earn an income from my efforts. Waves of…

Note: Today’s essay is an excerpt from my upcoming book, How To Turn 39, which is about aging and how we might do it better. HTT39 is for folks of all ages, not just elder millennials like myself, and is premised on…

Note: This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, How To Turn 39, which is about aging and how we might do it better, and which will officially be available for pre-sale in just under a week (my 39th birthday is the…

Every time I finish a book (or bring some other major effort to a close) I find myself with what feels like an overwhelming volume of empty space on my calendar and in my life. It’s a bit like if…

It’s vital, I think, to give ourselves space, time, and energy to process difficult moments, to cope with cumbersome realities, and to undertake the (at times ponderous) process of healing, rebuilding, and accepting. That said, I also think it’s possible…